In's and Out's of 2026

Reciprocal relationships: not in the 50/50 sense but with an emphasis on intentionality, mutual care, and the ability to hold space.
Hobbies just because: Playing basketball, baking, going to the beach, reading, climbing, writing. Engaging in hobbies for fun, without an agenda or the need to constantly improve.
Slowing down: noticing when a false sense of urgency is present and asking: is this really necessary?
Softness: with myself and others. If you cannot be the softest version of myself in relationships, you don’t need it.
Intentional responses: Pausing in challenging moments, becoming more curious, viewing conflict as an opportunity for growth and not a win/lose situation.
Staying in alignment: Noticing when old patterns emerge, choosing not to self-abandon, people please, or over-commit.
Being silly: reconnect with your inner-child and inner-teen.

Out

Survival mode: we’re not just surviving anymore, we’re thriving. Old coping mechanisms don’t work anymore, and that’s a good thing. Leave them in the past where they belong.
Anxious habits: nail biting, fawn response, hyper-fixation.
Forcing anything: especially relationships that no longer align.
Too much screen time: Go outside, take a deep breath, literally do anything else. Your eyes and brain will thank you.
Apologizing for taking up space: every time you make yourself small for the comfort of others you are compromising your true potential.
Internalizing the projection of others: we all see the world through our own lens. We all filter our reality through our past experiences and traumas. Because of this, sometimes other people will project their limiting beliefs onto you. This has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Earning rest: Rest is a right, not something you earn. If you do not indulge in it willingly, your body will force you to rest.